India

I am a proud Atlanta native. I grew up in a single parent household after my mother passed away when I was 8 years old following a breast cancer diagnosis. My father tirelessly raised my older sister and me in Marietta, Georgia. As a young girl I was not remotely aware of all of the sacrifices my dad made to raise us, which I am immensely grateful for now as an adult with a family of my own. There was not a moment I felt disadvantaged or that I was without due to the efforts of my dad. Somehow, he managed to work full time, raise 2 young girls, and still be present for all of the basketball games, tennis matches, and dance practices. We definitely had a village to get us through, but my older sister by far had the largest influence on my upbringing. I followed her footsteps in so many ways, with the most life changing being our paths to Spelman College.

I entered Spelman College wanting to pursue a career in dentistry, following in my dad’s footsteps, who is a dentist. While at Spelman, I made lifelong friendships, gained an excellent education, matured and graduated with undeniable confidence as an African American woman that I really hadn’t experienced previously growing up in a predominantly white suburb. Ben and I started dating our Sophomore year in college and our relationship grew and changed from that moment on.

Following Spelman, I entered dental school at Medical College of Georgia in Augusta, Georgia. I excelled academically and graduated at the top of my class. I remained in Augusta for an additional 30 month residency program, took several licensing and board exams, and became a Board Certified Orthodontist. Along the way I didn’t realize what an accomplishment this was until researching and uncovering that I would be the second African American to ever graduate from my residency program. With much disappointment, I had a hard time finding a job in a private practice when I graduated residency so I worked with a corporate dental organization until the perfect opportunity presented itself 2 years later. I gave birth to my daughter, Tatum, in September 2019 and returned from maternity leave to a new job, which came with its challenges and excitement at the same time.

Some of my goals of this blog are to share my experiences and adversities that I have had to overcome and deal with throughout my life. Growing up without a mother, living in a predominantly white suburb, attending a historically black college, matriculating through dental school and residency as a minority, getting married, starting a family and navigating the world of a working, nursing mother are all experiences that are not unique to my upbringing alone; however, I will share my perspective and ways I was able to ascend to where I am today with the help of my supportive husband. We certainly don’t have it all figured out, but we look forward to growing with you along the way as we navigate this ever changing world as parents, partners, leaders and friends.


 
 

Ben

I was born and raised in Wauwatosa, Wisconsin (yes, there are black men in Wisconsin), which was a predominately Caucasian culture elementary through high school in the suburbs of Wisconsin. Like many black men/boys, I was raised in a fatherless home due to my father being in prison from elementary through my high school graduation. My mother has struggled with drug addiction off and on her entire life, and this has genuinely played a significant role in the foundational structure of my life. I was raised by two strong, independent, loving, and driven sisters who, unfortunately, were tasked with raising a baby brother who was seven years younger. A large part of their foundational years was ripped from them as they had to make many uncounted sacrifices to ensure I had an opportunity to make it in life, something I will always be grateful for and will never forget. Growing up fatherless, and at times motherless in a predominately white environment forced me to challenge the world and seek out a better life for myself and my future family. 

I knew at an early age that I would be leaving Wisconsin, entering high school. I felt extremely disconnected from the black culture, and I knew that I needed to go to a Historically Black College to challenge my personal life experiences and goals. Attending Morehouse changed my life for the best, I met my wife, I developed lifelong brotherhood bonds, and I continue to advance my career with the skills I acquired in undergrad.

With an undergraduate degree in Finance and a graduate degree in Industrial-Organizational Psychology, I currently apply the skills I have learned from consulting and corporate America in a very fulfilled career.

I have been through a lot of personal experiences that have helped shape the man I am today. Lessons that I believe ethnically diverse people tend to shy away from having meaningful conversations. Within this blog, I have the goal of sharing a variety of perspectives on the dark and light side of the world we live in and how challenging it can be as a black married couple in America. I am emotional, empathetic, caring, passionate, driven, a father, a husband, a brother, a son, and a servant leader. Please continue reading, allowing us an opportunity to continue to grow together.